Here at A.S.APOTHECARY we don't see menopause as a negative event, or as a terrible thing to be endured, but rather as one of the many stages of being a woman that is ultimately a positive stepping stone from one phase to the next. As an all female team of women (mostly) of a certain seasoned maturity, we have a lot to share and discuss on the matter, and while we've found that certain characteristics may be similar, what is clear is that the menopause is different for everyone, and that this particular female transformation is as unique as every woman is.
Like pregnancy and childbirth, the menopause is one of those powerful and mysterious events in a woman's life that civilised society, and specifically the medical and scientific community, feels the need to control and define, and with that certain myths have grown up around what we should expect, this can create feelings of dread.
The journey can be difficult to navigate; more so because of our cultural perspective on gynecological changes, ageist gender ideals, and fear of change but that doesn't mean there isn't a lot that is rich to be gained. I love this quote by writer Sophia Breillatã about what this sacred time means to her:
"During menopause, a woman’s body and psyche are involved in a natural process of emptying, relinquishing anything that will not support the birth of her new life. This is, for many women, a chaotic and unpredictable time of inner reflection, energetically summing up, evaluating and weighing the balance of the life lived before menopause. This phase of death and rebirth inherently knows its own unique time and place. As she hovers in this twilight realm between death and renewal, there is frequently a long space without any sense of direction....This is such a sweet death of your old patterns, conditioning, structures, such a sweet birth of the Crone’s wisdom. You will never be the same woman again."
For more inspiration, in this podcast, Davina McCall discusses how for her the menopause was like a rebirth, where ultimately she felt better and stronger than ever, both physically and emotionally, and also enjoyed the surge of liberation that came with letting go of the need to make herself attractive to men.
All this change, the rebalancing of hormones, and the accompanied impact on our mind and body, however, can and frequently does cause anxiety and feelings of vulnerability, with their own sudden strong emotions that throw us unexpectedly off kilter. Our A.S.APOTHECARY Calm & Tranquil Therapeutic Balm was created using specific herbs and homeopathic ingredients to ease emotional tension and reduce anxiety. But we've had such positive feedback from customers going through menopause, who have used it and found it very effective at easing hormonal emotional turbulence, that we wanted to include it here. We are often asked for natural products by our customers, to help them through life's challenges. Here's what one of our regular customers, Sarah, had to say about this emotional rescue balm:
"Since using Calm & Tranquil by A.S APOTHECARY, I have found that my quality of sleep has improved and that I get less night sweats. I put a little bit on my wrists before bedtime and sometimes at the start of the day. I love the earthy scent and find it a very useful and nourishing balm, especially whilst currently perimenopausal. I have bought it as a gift for a friend who is going through her PhD, as well as for a family member who has been in hospital. I intend to carry on using Calm & Tranquil as my menopause companion and beyond and would really recommend that others try it."
We'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences on menopause and perimenopause, so please do comment or get in touch.
Calm & Tranquil - a rescue balm for menopause